Tips For Becoming An Influential Communicator
Need a few tips for becoming an influential communicator? If you find that your colleagues don’t respond to your messages or that they often interrupt you when you’re trying to communicate with them, then perhaps the answer is yes.
Let’s face it: some people just seem to have an innate ability to connect with other people, to command a room, so to speak. These people just know how to get their point across to an audience, or to groups, or individuals, without being forceful or bringing attention to themselves.
So what about those who feel that they don’t have the natural ability to be an influential communicator? Well, there’s really nothing to worry about because good communication skills don’t grow overnight. On the contrary, becoming an influential communicator can be achieved with good planning, meticulous preparation, and consistent practice. And, not to mention, the following tips below.
Here are a few tips for becoming an influential communicator:
Be a good listener
This might sound cliché, but it’s true nonetheless: before you can become a good speaker, you must first become a good listener. In fact, being a good listener is the key to becoming an influential communicator. Oftentimes people go into a conversation with the sole intention or objective of just getting their point across, but this isn’t really the best way to do things if you want to become a good communicator. Oftentimes, in a conversation, you must also know how to listen and listen well and, in turn, respond. Learning how to incorporate your points into the response is a good way of ensuring that the conversation isn’t one-sided. It goes without saying that people are more willing to listen if they believe they’re being listened to.
Now we also have what we call “active listening.” This is a simple technique that ensures that when you communicate with other people, they feel heard, an essential component of good communication. Active listening means that: (1) you spend more time listening than you do talking, (2) you do not answer questions with questions, (3) you avoid finishing other people’s sentences, (4) you focus more on the other person than you do on yourself, (5) you focus on what people are saying right now and not on what their interests are, (6) you reframe what the other person has said to make sure you understand them correctly, (7) you think about what you’re going to say after someone has finished speaking and not while they are speaking, (8) you ask plenty of questions, don’t take notes, (9) and—most importantly—you never interrupt.
Avoid jargon like the plague
We all know that the business world is full of jargon and metaphors. Now while it’s natural that laypeople can’t relate to this jargon and metaphors, the problem arises when most business leaders overuse jargon and alienate their colleagues and clients with this “business speak.” The solution? Easy: use jargon and metaphors sparingly if you want to well connect with your people. Otherwise, excessive use of jargon can lead people to think that you’re trying to impress them, or worse, they may think that you are being insincere.
Try to connect emotionally
We’re not trying to be cheesy here. But if you want to become an influential communicator you should always try to connect with people or your audience on an emotional level. While this is hard for many people to pull off, especially those who think that they are not in tune with their emotional side, there’s really something you can do: you can be open and transparent to the people you are communicating with. This is the first step to being connected emotionally, to being human. Express your feelings openly, and in no time you will be able to forge an emotional connection with other people.
And last but not least: Smile
Again, this tip is directly connected to the previous one. Once you are able to connect emotionally with your audience, try to smile. If you smile and nod along as other people who you are communicating with are speaking, they will be more positive about opening up and letting you speak as well.